What can be forgiven

Perhaps you too are at least partially surrounded by drama these days: breakups, comings and goings, arguments and endless laments. In other words, people in pain trying to understand the how and the why, looking to find a solution or at least some peace. Perhaps you too are lending a shoulder to cry on and…

A little something from the heart

Sometimes our lives look quite nice on the outside. We’re strong and smart and handling our responsibilities very well. Good things seem to happen. Even exciting things. We put on a brave face, we share photos, we joke and smile as often as possible. Only a few, if anyone, know about the reality under that…

When is it too late?

“Sometimes too late is just in time.”  C.J. Carlyon, The Cherry House Blessings are not always easy to recognize. Because sometimes they hide behind things we wish we hadn’t done, whether guided by error or intention. Because sometimes they hide in that darkness we couldn’t control and pain we would have given anything to avoid. Yet…

Why some of us reject or sabotage good things

“Don’t be someone that searches, finds, and then runs away.” Paolo Coelho It’s very simple. We choose what is familiar. And actually, it’s the subconscious that chooses for us. We all want and seek good things for ourselves. But once we reach or have them, we don’t always choose them. And then we suffer greatly…

I Ching no. 61

Centering in Truth wind above, lake belowhexagram no. 61 “Centering in truth involves becoming conscious of the relationship between your heart and the circumstances of your life. This requires connecting with the fundamental wisdom that is within you, within other people, and within all of nature. … When your inner life is clouded, your influence…

at last, a tale of finding

first comes the fall. then, the painful yielding. then, the rebellion. and then, at last, a scream of rage marking the surrender to acceptance. and so it begins. the slow stirring from numbness, as you start to touch the walls of the darkness. first with trembling hands. then with a thought. and another. and then…

When thoughts lie

In a podcast the other day, someone said all that thoughts ultimately prove is that they exist. I paused. What a thoughtful observation in the context of discussing fear and trauma-driven decisions, misleading logic, and anxiety patterns. Generally, we trust our thoughts, imagining they are logical, true and tested entities we can rely on to…

On healing the wounded child

Surely you too have noticed that we react not only to what we’re actually witnessing in the moment or some situation/issue in general – but also, to whatever we are facing reminds us of. Every time we ask “what if”, we’re resurrecting experiences or scenarios we ourselves lived through, heard or learned about. A great…

You can’t change if you don’t change

It’s funny how every counselor, psychic and life coach out there offers the same message: “If you create balance and free yourself from negative thoughts, bad habits and toxic patterns, happiness awaits!” Surely not! Really? You mean if we are healthy and happy we’ll be healthy and happy? That kind of insight is worth a…