Understanding that one fear

Photo by Sammie Chaffin on Unsplash “I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has…

The answer is in the question

Photo by Rohan Makhecha on Unsplash When we ask, we already know.  If we ask, we already know. Depending on the issue, we ask with curiosity, a wish, a desired direction, a genuine feeling. Sometimes, with also a sense of mystery, doubt, great discomfort or fear. And even the understanding of the need for a…

The magic of a paradox

Embracing flaws and the reality that we need takes much humility and courage. And it is a glorious letting go. So frightening, so amazing. A cleansing through grace. Stubborn independence and self-sufficiency are a clinging. A perpetual unbecoming. There’s desperation and fear built into our walls. There’s weakness and poverty…utter loneliness and the sorrows of…

About that advice: toxic influences and borrowed anxieties

This is a tough one, and for that reason, it’s been sitting unfinished in my drafts for a few years. Because how do you lovingly talk about those you appreciate or even love while also pointing to the all too frequent wrongness of seeking and receiving their influence via advice, opinion or assistance? And then…

Go there – take 2

Yesterday, a conversation about life, love and happiness led to the remembering of a story shared with me years ago by a soul no longer among us. A confession, a warning – “you must choose with your heart, and for yourself”, the dear soul said, as she told me about the love of her life…

Welcome to chaos: thoughts about change

“Change happens when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change.” Tony Robbins Very encouraging, isn’t it? Change = pain. Good times. Where do I sign up? The reality is we all change constantly, as do our circumstances. Even when we imagine we/they do not or can not. Even if…

The second Easter and the generous heart

For it is in giving that we receive. St. Francis of Assisi I get sappy at Easter. More accurately, on the occasion of the 2nd Easter (as I call the Greek Orthodox one). And I love everything about it. From the ideas of rebirth and healing, to memories: of lingering meals with tons of guests,…

the soul never forgets

“If suddenly you forget me, do not look for me, for I shall already have forgotten you.” ~ Pablo Neruda (Neftali Ricardo Reyes Basoalto) I never learned how to play the piano. I always played at the piano. Mesmerized. In a trance almost. With determined, unexplainable intuition. Today, after many, many days of silence, I…

one.

there are many kinds of grief. i know the one that silences, the one that shatters. the confusing one. and the one that settles like a fog of sharp edges – yet bearable. perhaps i know others i can not recall in this moment. but this, today, was unexpected. it struck with such depth and…