Law of attraction: conundrums and a hack

“Beware of what you set your heart upon…for it shall surely be yours.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson Beware is the key word. Because you will likely get what you think you want, only you might be overwhelmed by unexpected consequences. The greatest thing will show up and you won’t have a clue how to keep…

This too shall pass

I’ve had one of those days, caused by, well, nothing pleasant. So of course I decided to write. To sum up the day: s*#t happens. Which got me thinking that as much as we might believe that we can prevent and control whatever it is, that’s not how life works. You will be tested. And…

Get a bird on your shoulder: a better way to manage anxiety

Yup, a bird. An imaginary one, but still. Lately, I summoned one on my left shoulder. Of course we can’t see him. But he’s there. I chose a miniature shoebill stork, not the usual gray, but white. His feathers are always a mess. I fondly call him Birdie. And no, I’m not writing this from…

On healing the wounded child

Surely you too have noticed that we react not only to what we’re actually witnessing in the moment or some situation/issue in general – but also, to whatever we are facing reminds us of. Every time we ask “what if”, we’re resurrecting experiences or scenarios we ourselves lived through, heard or learned about. A great…

Understanding that one fear

Photo by Sammie Chaffin on Unsplash “I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has…

About that advice: toxic influences and borrowed anxieties

This is a tough one, and for that reason, it’s been sitting unfinished in my drafts for a few years. Because how do you lovingly talk about those you appreciate or even love while also pointing to the all too frequent wrongness of seeking and receiving their influence via advice, opinion or assistance? And then…

When all else fails, stay stubborn

There are those times when everything goes wrong. Or doesn’t go at all. And let’s face it, positivity only goes so far. As does endurance. There comes a time when there isn’t a spin left to put on the disaster that’s unfolding. The experts will encourage you to be fierce and boldly go where a…

A dangerous confusion: standards vs. expectations

Although they exist in parallel, the two are not interchangeable. Confusing them can lead to lack of appreciation, unreasonable judgments, and disastrous misunderstandings that ruin relationships, and dismantle happiness. A standard is a level of quality that represents the norm (collective and/or personal).An expectation is the belief that something will, and should happen (or be)…

When your beloved is Dr. Jekyll and also Mr. Hyde – understanding Borderline Personality Disorder and traits

“Real love is a rich, highly sustainable, consistent emotion, which a Borderline cannot tolerate.” ~ Shari Schreiber If you’re struggling with a Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde partner, or recovering from a relationship with that type, you will find this very useful given the overwhelming confusion and heartbreak associated with such cases. The assumption in any relationship…

We are not resistant to healing: we are afraid of pain

After a very awkward encounter with the blade of an electric hedge trimmer last year, I ended up having to get stitches (first time in my life!) for a nasty cut on my finger. I was in a lot of pain, scared out of my mind, bleeding. Clearly, a visit to the doctor was the…